New Rules after 50

Hi dear reader,

Generally by the time we reach that delightful age of 50 or older, we've been married, divorced, widowed, or certainly we've had many encounters with the opposite sex. In my book "50 Ways to Find Romance after 50" I interviewed couples representing all the above experiences plus a couple of people who had never had a really serious relationship until the right person came along. Since about the 1990s, some couples have chosen to become best friends and committed to each other, but remain single. There are still a few who marry only because they are afraid of what their grandchildren might think or who worry they might be a bad example to their children and grandchildren. That's your own, private choice.

The single biggest problem with those who have become single again and then meet someone they wish to marry is their children. Your children have their own lives and they will not wish to share with you. But I'll talk about this at length later on.

But back to living alone or together. During the 1980s almost all newly single women were looking for another man to marry. In the 90s this changed as women became more educated, more independent and now had the option to live happily alone without frowns from society. Women were no longer considered to be 'old maids'. Men also found that a single man could be an asset for hostesses and they could still pursue their manly sports with the 'boys' and not have to settle down to one gal. Their singleness might even be considered intriguing.

Today society pretty much accepts one's lifestyle choices. However, it can get lonely by oneself. Only you can decide whether you simply want to date, move in together, or marry. There are great choices out there if you will only look. In future blogs I'll talk about well over 50 ways to find romance!

In the meantime, have fun. I'll even talk about how to flirt again, which is also in my book.

Happy hunting,
Gloria